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today. He is not only a workforce development hero, just in the workforce development industry, he is a friend of NAWDP. If you’ve been to one of our conferences, you have no doubt seen Coach D. If you’ve been to any workforce conference, you’ve probably met Coach D as well. But our presenter for today is Darryl Andrews, also known as Coach D. He is going to be speaking today and present on a very important topic of
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impact of self-care on mental health.
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Again, we won’t have a PowerPoint, so this will be a conversation. So I’m going to turn it over to Coach D. If you have any questions as he’s going through, you can definitely put those into the chat box as well. And we’ll go through, get to those questions as Coach D is going through his presentation. So, Coach D, I will turn it over to you.
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Well, I just want to first of all say how honored I am. As Kim alluded to, I have been involved with and engaged with this wonderful organization now
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It’s hard to believe, Kim, it’s been about 18 years.
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And so I did my first speech for you all at a youth conference.
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And that was about 18 years ago.
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And so, I mean, it’s just amazing that all these years later, we’re still running with each other and
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doing our best to impact the workforce development space all over the country. Just let you all know by way of introduction.
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I’m a consultant, trainer, speaker, and coach, and I have a team of wonderful consultants that work with me today. But for a number of years.
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We were a workforce development provider. So we were contracted under w ya
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And we ran a youth and adult initiative that both became extremely successful.
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And a lot of it is because of the principles that we put in place
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the impact, the culture of our organization. I used to always tell my staff.
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The reality is this, the clients and everyone else that walks in here do not set the tone for our culture. We do.
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And so we looked at our core values. We looked at self-motivating each other, and we were able to have some success.
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It’s great to meet you all. You’re from all over the country. I am in Chicago right now.
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And here at this conference, this event for the Easter Seals Organization, just got done training all their senior leaders
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And I told him, I said, I have a hard stop at 1230 because at one o’clock, I’m going to be with some wonderful
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I call my people workforce development folks from all over the country. So I just want to make sure you please have a notepad
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and a pen and paper because I want you to take notes and um
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Because I personally believe that this is one of the most important topics of our generation.
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And I don’t say that just because I’m doing this with you all. It is of extreme
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importance that we no longer ignore this. The mental health issues that we are experiencing in our country
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are this is the worst it’s ever been. Therapists are overwhelmed
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Matter of fact, therapists are so overwhelmed that they need therapy.
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so many of them, they have what’s called compassion fatigue.
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They are seeing so many people
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that are dealing with challenges
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that is affecting them.
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I read a statistic recently where it said for every
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100,000 people
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All right. That need
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Therapy, there’s only therapy
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300 therapists.
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per 100,000 people that need it.
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All right. And so when you look at that number.
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no wonder we’re seeing an influx of mental health issues. There’s a lot going on right now.
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in our society.
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A couple of things to talk about when it comes to stats and when it relates to this, and then we’re going to get into some of the
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stuff around what we can do
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But, you know, there was a recent report that came out that said that we have a 20%
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clinically diagnosed depression rate in the United States of America.
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That’s one out of five people
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are dealing with depression. I bet everyone in this call, if you want to type a yes in the chat feature, go ahead.
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know somebody that’s dealing with depression.
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You just know somebody. I know several people.
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that’s dealing with it. So you think about it, if you say, yeah, look at all these yeses that’s popping in there. There we go. Boom. Look at that.
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I mean, there are just, it’s everywhere now.
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And some people say, well, it’s always been there. And I’m saying, no, not necessarily. I don’t think it has.
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I think it’s just now post pandemic
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all the people went through the trauma of those times
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I just really believe that it’s produced this.
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And so and then
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And with millennials, the research is showing is upwards of 35%.
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So that’s quite a few millennials that are dealing with this.
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The, um.
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SHRM, the Society for Human Resource Management.
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who I spoke at their conference, matter of fact just
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you know uh of four months ago
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I’ve never seen a conference like this. There were 30,000 people. 30,000 people at this conference.
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I felt like I was walking into a river of people.
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It was the most incredible thing I’ve ever had. And it’s ironic because I’m here in chicago
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And the facility, matter of fact, Nordup used to, it was at the McCormick Center.
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And so I know the earlier years, we used to do some stuff over at McCormick. I don’t know if you know.
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that’s on your agenda. And thank you for being honest. I see someone said myself and yes, others.
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You know, that’s the reality of it. So SHRM is saying
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that based upon their research.
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that the number one
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clinically diagnosed challenge from a mental health perspective in the workplace is anxiety.
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Number one is anxiety.
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And what they’re saying is this.
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that people that
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When you think about anxiety, anxiety is kind of like fear of the future.
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They fear what’s going to happen later
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Depression is really what’s happening now.
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But anxiety is what it could be it could be fear, like one of my
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colleagues used to say years ago, false evidence appearing real
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It may never happen, but in our minds, if we think it happens, then guess what? It can cause us to be anxious.
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And in the workplace, a lot of that anxiety is a byproduct of not having effective systems in place.
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And so just like I’m here today working with this organization, I told him, I said, you know what? We have to be responsible for the culture of our organizations.
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And it’s not just going to happen on its own.
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I tell leaders all the time, if you’re not building
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your culture, you’re building your team, what are you doing?
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I mean, you know, that’s like a sports team that wants to go play a game and they don’t practice.
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You know what I mean? They don’t have a playbook.
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So a lot of anxiety that we feel because people don’t know what’s going on. They don’t know what’s happening. They don’t know what’s going on. They don’t know what the future holds.
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And so it’s bringing about a lot of anxiety.
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And then also, how many would agree, Bob, maybe go to the emoji and do a thumbs up or something or
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Type in the chat, but how many agree the pandemic turned us upside down? How many would y’all would agree with that?
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You can do thumbs up or type it in the chat feature, man. That thing turns us upside down.
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it turned us upside down. Let me tell you something.
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I don’t know if y’all remember. I remember it.
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I remember them telling me, don’t touch that bag or you can die. Or if that person sneezes, you can die. I mean, it was a scary
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They’re showing you pictures of cities that were vacant. No one there, like empty.
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You know, then when you start being allowed to go back out, then you go to the store and you had to remember the six foot rule? You had to stand
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Six feet away from somebody.
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And remember if somebody would sneeze, how you would look at them? Come on, y’all. We haven’t forgotten that.
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Like, how dare you sneeze near me?
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You know, that was the world we came out of.
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So it traumatized a lot of us.
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And I’m sharing all this to share, not to bring negative. I want to let you know why we’re where we are today.
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This led up to it.
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Now, what are some other things that led up to this mental health crisis that we’re dealing with?
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This is research-based too.
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Social media. People are just overwhelmed
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They’re trying to keep up with everything.
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a lot of the young folks feel insignificant because they don’t live the lives that all these celebrities are living.
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I didn’t see celebrities when I was a kid, except on tv
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or playing the game, I didn’t see their homes. I didn’t see their cars.
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I didn’t see the lives they were living. I didn’t see, we had three channels
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I’m old, y’all. You know, we had ABC, NBC, and CBS. I’m sorry, y’all. I’m just old. Just go on a septic thing. I’m old. I’m good looking old though, but I’m old. I go to the gym every day. 62, but I still got guns. Don’t mess with me.
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All right. But the reality is this, man.
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You know, we just get, I mean, that social media thing
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You know, I see folks scrolling through these reels. I said, don’t you get tired of all that? This person’s life and that person’s life. I don’t want to be in people’s business like that.
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This is too much information for me. I don’t care what someone shows over there cracking up jokes about this and that. It doesn’t matter. So that’s just me. But a lot of folks do it.
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Wake up in the morning, the first thing they do, grab their cell phones. They want to go scroll.
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Let’s see what people are doing.
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All of that is affecting us mentally. I’m telling you.
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And the last one I want to mention is the change
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of our family values. You know, the kids used to, and even adults, we had a safe space called our kitchen
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Where you can sit down
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And have conversations with people.
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And you would talk about your days
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you would talk about your, you know, your life and what’s going on
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If you have thoughts, you could pop them in the chat feature. I see that social media is a drug. Absolutely.
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People with no so it’s all these different things
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that are impacting us. The family value, I still have those same family values. My family and I still eat dinner at night.
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with the table, but the ones are there. I have three kids that are gone and just have my youngest daughter. I have four kids.
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But we did it together. And we talk all the time.
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Because I said, you know, times may have changed, but that value is not going to change.
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Because I know I got to create that safe space.
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So I’m laid the foundation.
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Mental health is an issue.
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with dealing with it you have
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Elementary school kids saying I need therapists.
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you know, when I was a kid, I was too busy outside getting dirty, rolling in the dirt and
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Chasing after dogs and flying kites. It was different for me.
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But today, there’s an awareness
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of mental health more than the past.
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So folks are aware that it’s an issue you know
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And is the biggest drug. I see what you’re typing in there.
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So, so so
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With all of this, and if there’s any questions.
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please type them in and I’ll stop in a little bit and answer some questions. So ask questions because I’m going to be sharing a lot with you.
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All right. So that’s what’s going on.
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So why did I choose self-care?
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And I chose it. We have a thing called the self-care movement.
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And we’re literally taking this all over the country. The United States, Canada, the Caribbean
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From an organizational perspective, to have companies and organizations and associations, many of your peers
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to make self-care a priority.
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with the workplace being a foundational building block for it.
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We spend more time at work than we do just about anything else.
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And so that workplace is a great foundational place for us to synergize around organizational health
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via individual health.
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And so let me give you a quote.
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All right. Let me say this real quick, a statement
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And then I’ll answer questions that I want you to write down. And I’m going to pause for questions.
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Write this down and don’t forget it.
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Self-care is a precursor to wellness.
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I’m going to type it in the chat feature.
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Self-care
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All right, is a precursor
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to wellness okay
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So, Kim, there’s a question here. I just want to pause because I’ve been going about 10 minutes.
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And I can see it. So I’m actually cool here.
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How do we promote self-care without imposing our own way unto others?
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Let me say this to you.
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Self-care is not a way.
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Self-care is a mindset. It’s a paradigm.
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It’s a way of life that we must embrace.
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And so to me
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If you’re communicating self-care at your organization.
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Your family, wherever.
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you are doing them a favor.
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Just because people don’t necessarily embrace it don’t mean it’s not the right thing to talk about.
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I just gave you some of the statistics.
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So, um.
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So the reality is that um
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Self-care, all right, I mentioned, is a precursor to wellness.
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Now, why am i lay you know why am i
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laying this stuff out here.
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Because everyone’s talking about wellness and please write this down.
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Self-care is the only way to get to wellness.
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It’s the only way.
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It is the only way to get to wellness.
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I’m going to give you an example.
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All right, somebody mentioned the Caribbean. I don’t know what that means. I just don’t know how to answer that question. It just popped in there. I have no idea what that means.
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Think about this with self-care.
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What happens when a doctor
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If something goes on with a doctor, what does the doctor tell you to do?
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Type it in the chat feature. Just type, what’s the one of the first things doctors tell you to do?
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when you’re going in, there it is.
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I got one. Come on, everybody. Let’s go.
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Drink more water. Drink more water. Do not stress. Look at that sleep.
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Lose weight. Come on, y’all. Pop them in there.
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Come on. Exercise.
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Take this med, DJ. That’s what they’re going to tell you to do because you didn’t do the other stuff. Pray. Eat better.
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Hey, Russ. Come on.
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Why? I’m going to ask you a question because I want you to think differently than other people. You’re going to get something out of this because it’s not something I’m just doing because this is what we do. We talk about this stuff all the time. We coach to this stuff, all this stuff.
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Yeah, look at it. Why does it take a doctor to tell you this?
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Come on, y’all, laugh, smile. Give me something here.
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Why does it take a doctor?
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Why not do it on our own?
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Come on now. I don’t have time for self-care. Well, if you don’t, the doctor gonna make you do it anyway.
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I don’t have the time to self-care. Coach, man, listen.
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I don’t either. You think you got time issues? You should try them in. I’m here. I got to fly to Virginia to speak in Virginia the next day. Then I got to fly somewhere else the next day. You’re kind.
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But guess what? At 5.30, I have my butt up in that gym doing my ladders workout.
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I had my bike because why?
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You, please get this and don’t forget it. You have to make it a priority.
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Don’t worry about anybody else’s things.
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Who cares?
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You have to make it a priority.
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And then once you make it a priority.
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then others will see the outcomes.
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And they’ll say, man, how come you seem to be under control?
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How come you’re not stressed out all the time?
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then you become a beacon of hope for others.
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You see?
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You know, and so
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And so the reality is this, and there’s another question that popped up. How much of your time do you give up when you don’t practice self-care?
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Well, my thing is this. I don’t know how to answer that question without the exception of
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If you don’t practice health care, ultimately you will.
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Because your body can only take so much burnout.
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it can only take so much stress.
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So if I were to say to folks.
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And I’m just deviating from what i would you know
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take some time on a day-to-day basis.
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Is it taking a walk?
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is it reading a book?
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Is it studying something like I’m a big fan of emotional intelligence. How many of y’all know about the show of hands? How many know about emotional intelligence, Dr. Goldman’s work?
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something that’s going to help me mentally and internally make some changes.
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So what I do is I got a good system because I’ve been doing this a long time.
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But I don’t do big chunks of self-care stuff.
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What I do is little bits at a time.
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Let me start. Like right now, I weightlift every day and I run every day, okay? But guess what? I didn’t start out doing that. I started off walking two blocks today.
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You know, I started out, I didn’t start out
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my diet thing, I’m pretty healthy with my diet now.
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But I started, okay, I’m going to give this up.
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And I’ll give that up.
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And so please write this term down, slow drip, write it down. Slow drip.
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that coffee is the best coffee. It’s the slow drip coffee.
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Slow drip with your light.
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When it comes to self-care.
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Sarah, I like that. Exercise self-care by choice before you have to do it by force. That’s right.
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You’re absolutely right. Low drip.
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Everybody we coach, every organization we coach.
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What we’re doing is we’re telling the folks, come together and synergize. I’m going to talk about that in just a moment and work together
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to encourage each other to make these choices, just like you come together and talk about impacting your clients.
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Just like you come together about impacting your community.
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Just like you come together and talk about partnership and stakeholder type things, because I know workforce development, I know all the things we talk about.
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Policy, we need to be talking about self-care.
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We need to be talking about wellness.
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Because guess what? We’re the ones
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They got to do all this stuff. Come on, y’all. Give me a happy emoji with that one. Come on. Go here and go to heart and do a heart like that. You can hit the heart down at the emojis and get that. Come on.
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You know, type this in the chat feature. It’s my only motivation. I’m not here doing motivational speech, so I’m going to be careful because y’all know me. I can motivate.
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Type in that chat feature, you are important. Go ahead, type that in there. Everybody, I want to see all of y’all. Type it in there. You are important. Type it in. Come on, let’s go. You are important. Let’s go. Let’s go.
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you are important. You got to understand
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You can’t help nobody else if you can’t help yourself. If you burnt out and stressed, how are you going to help somebody?
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If you’re angry and come in and there’s a client that comes in, how are you going to work with that client?
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You’ve got to understand, you got to take care of you.
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You look all these, you are important. You are important.
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Because if you don’t take care of that important vessel.
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When we do the workshops, and I love doing these workshops, I put up
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What I put up is an expensive car.
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And I ask folks the question, if somebody were to give you this Lamborghini.
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Or somebody give you this Porsche.
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How would you treat it?
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And everybody in the audience, I said, go on, just talk to each other. Everybody in the audience, oh man, and so then I come back and ask them, okay, tell me, give me some responses. What would you do with it?
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And so people would say they would sell it
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You know, you always get a lot of them because I don’t need a car like that.
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There’s some people like me would say, man, I’m going to take that thing on the highway. I’m going to floor that thing. You know, that’s what I would do with it.
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What I’m trying to share with people is this.
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Please write this down.
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The things you value
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you will take care of.
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That’s a hard pill to swallow.
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Listen, the thing you value
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you will take
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care of. You value that car, you shine that puppy up, clean the rims
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clean the inside, but then say, I ain’t going to take care of myself because I don’t have time.
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Come on, let’s put more value into ourselves.
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And workforce development, as Kim knows, is one of my passions. So I’m saying this to my colleagues all over the country. Take care of yourself.
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I go to these conferences and everybody want to talk for hours. I mean, I can spend, when I go to another conference, I got 900. Everyone talk. I say, you know what? The next time I come, I want to see what you’re going to do with this stuff.
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I’m going to say to you right now, if you sit here and do nothing, that’s on you.
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I want you to go back and slow drip.
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All right. Because let me give you the categories of self-care.
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There’s a couple categories I want you to think about. It’s not just physical.
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All right, that’s the eating and the eating
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exercise, but it’s also emotional self-care
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emotional.
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How are you doing with your emotions? Study, study, study that stuff, all right?
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emotional self-care.
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All right. That’s another category of self-care. It’s emotional.
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Family, community.
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All of that fits in. Are you spending time with your family? Are you spending time? Are you giving to your community?
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All of that is a part of self-care.
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So we got the personal thing we got to do
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But you know what? Family is important because guess what? When something happens to my kids, that affects me.
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So I got to take the time as a father to spend time with my wife and spend time with my kids.
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Because why? That brings stability to that relationship
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which is a form of self-care for me.
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you know and so so um so these these different categories, self-care, and I don’t have enough time to go into all of them.
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But self-care is not just about weights and yoga class and smoothies.
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Because that’s what people think it is.
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Self-care is just like I’ll invest in that car
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I’m going to invest in myself.
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So let me give you the self-care what we call
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the three A’s.
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Okay? The three A’s of self care.
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And you do these three, you good.
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Number one is acceptance.
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All right, it’s called our 3A framework.
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His acceptance.
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All right. And so all right uh
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Acceptance means i accept
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that I need to do self-care.
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is no longer, you know.
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I don’t have time for it.
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Or it’s not important.
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it is important. Don’t let anybody lie to you.
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Okay? Don’t let anybody lie to you. The second A is action.
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Now that I’ve accepted that I need to do this, I’m going to put some action to it.
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I’m going to slowly, I’m going to get a self-care journal
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What am I going to do? I’m going to walk
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You know what I mean? I’m going to take my time. I’m going to decompress. I’m going to read books.
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I want to do all these little itty bitty things.
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as I start to, because what I’m doing now is I’m mentally, please write this down. And I wish I had more time with you.
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carving out neurological pathways, new neurological pathways.
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That’s what you’re carving out.
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And so now your mind, which has accepted what you gave it, because we give our minds what to accept. Our mind just don’t get it on its own.
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We tell our minds with the accepted. The minds say, oh, you accept it? That’s fine. That’s cool. We’re good with that.
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But now you’re telling your mind, no, we’re going to think about things differently. My health matters.
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And that means you’re going to have to take time for you as well. Let me do this real quick before we end this too, because I got one more A I’m going to share with you.
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Type the word no in the chat feature. That’s going to become your new best friend.
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People are trying to get you to volunteer. They’re trying to get you to do this. They’re trying to get you to do that. Listen, volunteer. Don’t get me wrong. Volunteer for volunteer. That’s cool, but don’t do everything.
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Look at all these no’s.
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No, no, no, no, no.
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I like that long one. There you go, Morris.
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I like that, bro. A big old no.
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Because we don’t have to see we’re in the helps industry. We got to learn until people sometimes.
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Just no one.
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Because you need to take care of you
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Nope, nada. That’s right. We can say it in different languages.
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That’s right. There you go, Liz Liza. There you go.
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That’s what I’m saying. Being a people pleaser is draining.
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Get them people, man. It’s all about you. The last A is accountability.
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The last A is accountability.
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And what I want you to understand is this.
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Accountability means you need three or four or five people that’s going to run with you.
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All right.
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and going to help you remain accountable to yourself, your goals.
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The goal of exercise, the goal of that diet, the goal of emotional.
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The goal of rest, go to bed.
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That’s my last thing I’m going to say before, and I’m going to give you a little information. Type in that chat feature, go to bed. Come on.
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go to bed. Y’all don’t go to bed. You stay up to two or three in the morning and wonder why you’re tired in the morning.
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Get off that Instagram. Get off of that Snapchat.
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And go to bed. I don’t have time for self-care. Yeah, you just spend half of it all night on Instagram.
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Go to bed. And that extra hour, you can wake up and work out in the morning or you can wake up and take a walk.
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You know, I got a little miniature poodle called Buttercup. Yeah, my dog, that’s my daughter’s dog, but I wouldn’t have a dog named Buttercup, but it’s my daughter’s dog. But is she be walking around with Buttercup. It doesn’t matter.
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take care of you. You got to say go to bed. Try to get to bed, give yourself at least seven hours night’s sleep.
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That’s an assignment.
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Because your body needs rest. I don’t have time to go over it. I talk a lot about it at the conferences and with my customers that we work with.
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But your body needs it for healing.
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cell rejuvenation, all these different things. Working out, the American Medical Association says that working out
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it decreases the chance of depression by 80 something percent. It’s like 80%.
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taking care of myself. That’s the secret.
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And so a couple last things and I’m done.
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Integrated self-care into your culture. And we can help with that.
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And thank you, Kemp, for putting those in there. I’m going to put them again just to
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So that you can have, you know.
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Just get these things in place and your organization, say, let’s start talking about self-care.
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Let’s make it a priority for us. Let’s let’s
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let’s say we’re going to encourage each other because in the workforce development space, you deal with clients, you got challenges and stuff that’s going on. It’s a lot, you know what I mean?
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You know, it’s just a lot.
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And so, um.
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Oh, I’m sorry, trying to do something real quick, but it ain’t working.
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You know, take the time.
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take the time, work with each other, encourage each other.
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around this space, because the reality is this
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The reality is this.
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In order for us to be able
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to achieve mental health and mental stability
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we got to make self-care a priority.
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Create a self-care DNA within your organization. Create a self-care DNA.
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and connected to someone that you care about, like your kids.
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a spouse or something like that.
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And in doing so, what you’ll find, my friends, is you’ll end up in a space where self-care could be a problem.
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So I have two websites. I can’t get them in the chat feature for some reason. I wanted to share them with you. But one is Coach D Speaks.com.
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Coach D Speaks.
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And another one I have is called self. Again, for some reason, I was trying to get in the chat feature. It wouldn’t work.
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But another one is…
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Okay, there it is. I just put that. There it is. They’re just about that.
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And I’m not putting them in there to sell you anything. I’m putting them in there so that if you want to reach out to me.
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with me just to even have a quick debrief and talk about some of this stuff further, reach out.
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You know, it’s not always about us trying to get business. It’s about trying to impact the industry. So those are my two websites.
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Well, thank you. Thank you, Kim, for that
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And if we can ever be of help, we work with your peers all over the country, virtual programs, live programs.
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case management
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We do work with his clients.
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You know, we’re empowering, but my number one focus is you guys now.
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And your mental health and your mental well-being so you can continue to do the work you do. So Kim, thank you for the opportunity.
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I’m a stickler for time. You would think I was in the military. I don’t play with time.
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you know but if y’all got something, just type in the chat feature, maybe one thing that you got. I would love to see that. And then Kim, I’ll turn it over to you.
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All right. Keep it right at 30 minutes.
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Any other questions?
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All right, perfect. Thank you so much.
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Mm-hmm.
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We don’t.
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All right.
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Thank you so much, Coach G, for enlightening us and sharing with us today. Again, this recording will be available on our Not Up YouTube channel. And I will also send those two links out to everybody’s email address so you’ll have it in your email as well. And so, you know, there’s one quote, well, there are a lot of quotes that I have around self-care and I have like all these
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Yeah.
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Okay.
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notes around my computer, but one that I put up about self-care says
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Self-care is not me first, but it means me too.
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I love that.
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And so, you know, as workforce professionals, as we’re always, you know, we’re in the service industry and that’s what we do. We serve, but sometimes we serve so much that we forget about ourselves. So it’s really saying it’s not me first, but it’s me too. Coach G, thank you for sharing with us today. I appreciate you. You’ll be at our Note U Symposium, right?
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I’m going to be at the youth symposium. I don’t miss none of anything.
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I’ve been 18 years. I’ve been there.
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We’ll be at youth symposium. So if you’re coming to the youth symposium, Coach D will
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Mm-hmm.
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Hmm.
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Mm-hmm.
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My pleasure.
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Toasty will be there. We have an entire track on mental health for youth because that’s how important this is. But we do have an entire track on youth mental health as well. So I did want to put that plug in there. But thank you all for joining us for our October 30 Minutes of Excellence session. Thank you again, Coach D, for being with us. And I hope you all enjoy the rest of your Wednesday. Have a wonderful day.
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Take care, everybody. Thank you, Paula, for what you said. I appreciate it. Take care, everyone. Bye now.
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Thank you.
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Bye
